Every relationship is different, and every relationship will have its issues. But if you're in a relationship that's having trouble, it's important to be able to identify what those problems are and how to fix them. We have looked at some of the most common problems many couples face and ways to address them.
Lack of intimacy
Lack of intimacy is an issue that can be easily fixed by creating a safe environment. It might seem like this is a relationship issue, but it affects both partners equally. In other words, if your partner’s lack of intimacy is hurting you, it will also hurt them in the long run.
The good news? Having sex doesn't have to be scary or complicated. Intimacy is built on trust and communication between two people who have been together for some time. If your relationship lacks this, then it could be time for some serious soul searching before things get worse!
When addressing this issue, it’s important to communicate openly with your partner. When was the last time you spoke to your partner about your sexual needs? When were you last honest about what you wanted to do in the bedroom? If you find talking about sex a little embarrassing or difficult, you may find that seeking help from a therapist may help to open the communication channels and help you to express your needs without feeling like you’re attacking your partner.
Jealousy
Jealousy is a normal human emotion. It's something we all feel from time to time, especially when it comes to the people we care about most. Jealousy can be destructive, but it can also be a sign of an underlying problem that needs to be addressed.
If you're feeling jealous in your relationship, consider these questions:
Is my partner being faithful? (If not, then this might be a good time for some counselling.)
Is my partner's behaviour with other people appropriate?
Communication problems
Communication is a two-way street. If you're in a relationship, chances are that you feel like your partner isn't communicating with you. Maybe they aren't telling you how they're feeling, or maybe they don't want to talk about certain issues because of how it might make them feel.
These types of communication problems can be tricky to address because the problem isn't with their ability to communicate, but rather it's with their unwillingness to do so. That said, there are some things people can do to help improve their communication skills and have more effective conversations with their partners.
When having an important conversation, take time beforehand and think about what you want out of the conversation; what exactly are your goals? Do this even if it seems obvious (for example I want him/her to not yell at me). This way when he/she starts yelling at you about something else (which will happen), then it will be easier for them to understand why we need help solving our problems rather than just trying harder not to yell at each other next time. Your communication goal may be just to listen to your partner and not try to fix every problem that arises. Sometimes, just being there for your partner and listening to their needs is what is needed in helping to improve communication.
Abuse
Abuse is not just about physical violence. It can be verbal, emotional, or sexual. And it's important to note that abuse is never acceptable, even if the abuser has a mental illness that makes them act this way.
If you're being abused by someone with an untreated mental illness such as depression or bipolar disorder, you need to seek help from a therapist or counsellor who can guide you through this difficult time in your life and help your partner get treatment.
If you can't find ways to solve your relationship problems, counselling may be a good idea. A counsellor can help you understand each other's points of view and learn how to communicate better. They can also teach you strategies for resolving problems together. A counsellor or therapist may also help you to get the resources and assistance you need to leave the abusive relationship if you need the help.
If you’re facing any of these relationship problems, it might be time to seek professional help. A good therapist can help you find solutions that won’t involve abandoning your partner or starting over from scratch. If you don’t feel like things will ever get better on their own, it might even be worth trying couples counselling with each other—but only if both partners are willing! Remember, a relationship is a two-way street; you both need and want to be involved in resolving any underlying issues you may have. If you’re looking for a couples therapist, get in touch with Aly’s Place or get some free advice over at our Facebook group, Real Relationships.
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